Would you believe...

That some people (thread starts there) are just all up in arms and screaming about my privilege to the Heavens because I made the following statement:

“Even I have had shit times in my business, which you said you were oh so sorry for…yet… Reading this shit and this altering of what I’ve said…it’s worse. And gee, color me surprised if I don’t see the comment published, too bad I believe in making both sides known… Frankly, woman to woman, I’d take a rape to this kind of distortion…and I mean that full heartedly. Don’t get how THAT feels? I wouldn’t be surprised.” -ME

Is it an ugly, visceral statement? Yep. It also happens to be, in my case…true. I would. I’d take a rape to the constant lies and distortion. Physical pain? Been there, done that, have the scars. Emotional pain? Hell, we’ve all been there. What cracks me up, and yes, I mean cracks me up, is these are the same people who think lying about how I broke my nose to further an agenda is okay, or that me taking exception to Gail Dines statement is horrible. Oh, here’s Gail’s statement: “I watched a very interesting interview with some women in pornography…they all basically said the same thing. they all said, ‘you know, i signed the contract, i’m willing, it’s my consent. but, something happened to me that day on the set. that first day, something crossed over in me, and i don’t know what it is, but something changed.’ now, i think tomorrow we’ll talk about that, because it’s very complicated what did change. but they experienced rape on that set. and i don’t care if you sign a million fucking contracts, that’s rape…when your trauma is forever documented, there is no closing the door.” That statement, in my head, sounded like contracts and consent be damned, all women performers in porn were (regardless of what they say) raped their first time on a porn set. I don’t think Gail gets to make that call…

BUT…BUT… if you, oh, agree with Gail…well then, shit…I’ve been raped a lot. And am in no place of privilege when I make my “I’d rather be” statement. See, these people don’t get to have it both ways in their oh so special anti porn radical feminist worldview…either I have been raped (repeatedly, cause Gail is right!) and thus, no privilege at all when I make that statement, or I haven’t been raped, in which yeah, their may be privilege in my statement, but Gail is then being…ahem…inflamatory and dismissive all at once.

So which is it, kids? Is Gail right and yep, sure enough, me and every other woman in porn was raped the first time on a set, at which point, I can compare and decide about what is worse for me with no privilege at which point….STFU…or is Gail maybe wrong about that? Either I’ve been raped via work, or I haven’t. You don’t get to have it both ways when it suits you.

Me, I say I haven’t been raped, Gail does not get to decide that for anyone…and for me, personally, I stand by my oh so horrible statement. But of course, any excuse to ignore ones own crap behavior and that of their allies, right? I notice nary a word about Gin’s lie…

Shocked? Nah, not at all.

And yeah, I’ve replied to some shit over there…still in moderation. We’ll see, I guess.